I realize that my past experiences have made me who I am today, but I still wish I could go back in time and have a sisterly chat with poor, clueless, "younger me" about relationships.I could've written three novels, started a business, and hiked the Appalachian Trail with all the wasted time and energy.However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet.Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does! Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top.I guess the simple answer as to why he won’t call you his girlfriend is because he doesn’t have to.Digital technology and smartphones in particular have transformed many aspects of our society, including how people seek out and establish romantic relationships.Finding a romantic partner is only one of many goals you can have at once.
Our relationship is starting to suffer now because even though I say I’m fine with how things are, deep down this is really bothering me and I feel really hurt by the fact that even though I am his ‘girlfriend,’ he won’t acknowledge me in that way.
Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site.
********** UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not.
It's too late for me, but maybe you can learn from what I wish I knew when I was single.
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